At 38, she says her gut was telling her to deal with her father’s absence, which left her struggling with issues of abandonment. Her answer was the Hoffman Process, which is a retreat program for people who feel stuck due to negative behaviors developed in childhood. “Some of the stuff happens when you’re so young, and you don’t even know what you’re missing out on,” says Harris. “You get into habits of relating that aren’t necessarily healthy. I just wanted to get that perspective of my childhood.
You have to delve into the fire and experience and discover where an issue really lies and deal with it.” These days the actress is “the happiest I’ve ever been,” she says. “I was able to reach a point of forgiveness for my father, which has been incredibly healing for me. I think the thing I was asking of my dad—to be able to father me at 18 years old— he was not capable of doing. A big part of the healing experience was understanding where my dad came from. Now that I am older, I’m able to understand the decision my father made not to be part of my life when I was growing up. I have learned to put myself in his shoes and have empathy for his choice. There is no animosity between us.”